Posted in 30somethings, life, opinion, pop culture, women

Are Your 18 Year-Old Decisions Still Relevant?

When I was turned 18 back in the year of 2004, there were many rite of passages awaiting to mark the occasion. You could get a tattoo and piercing without permission, register to vote and even enter the “adult store” in the heart of our small town. At the time it all felt like a huge deal since this was the first time you actually felt like you can make an adult decision. Why not take advantage of this newfound freedom just like the others your age? Many did and a few went completely overboard! Now twelve years later, I have to wonder; are the decisions made 12 years ago actually relevant in your thirties?

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I’ve had this conversation with friends about the “harmless” belly button piercing back in the day. I too took the plunge and got a needle through my inney and still have it to this day. Once my friend’s sister turned 32 she said that she felt that she had to take it out because she didn’t feel that it was mature or really appropriate for someone her age. Is this a conversation we need to have with ourselves at some point? What about those lower back tattoos that aren’t so easily to erase by taking out the perpetrator and awaiting for the evidence to close up? Do we lose our youth by trying to hide the past?

I never thought I would reflect on this special time in my life and think about how long ago it was. Was getting a piercing just following a trend or solidifying my transition into adulthood? What do you think?

Posted in opinion, pop culture

Legends Never Die?

“Heroes get remembered but legends never die,” so the story goes in the triumphant ending of The Sandlot. Sports and heroism fuse together as Benny risks it all to retrieve that Babe Ruth signed baseball from the irritable dog known as the ‘Beast.’ Does Benny ultimately become a legend after successfully outsmarting the beast dog? In the world of 12 year old boys spending summers in a dusty baseball diamond, yes. The legacy of Benny Rodriguez will remain the talk of the baseball diamond for future generations and it won’t be about how he made it to the majors rather, how he took a risk that summer and saved the skin of his best friend, Smalls.

Why can’t every athlete have some sort of legacy like that…..and don’t for a second say that Kobe does!

The last few weeks leading up to “Mamba’s” retirement has been a whirlwind in the marketing sphere. One of the greatest basketball players was about to play his final game and leave behind shoes that even Lebron may find hard to fill. We’ve seen it before- black and white video montages, commemorative jerseys and athletes across all sports showing their love and appreciation for the one, the only, the legendary, Kobe Bryant. But really, what is his legacy?

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I seem to recall a press conference years ago hosted by Bryant and his wife; a very strategic PR move to downplay a serious sex scandal that the all-star Laker was involved in. A moment in time where fans and endorsers took pause in the investment they had in their basketball hero but it didn’t last long. As the lines of the controversial events got blurry, Bryant continued to play, win back his endorsements and lay crucial groundwork for a long lasting legacy in the sport. Sounds like Tiger Wood’s team took great notes if you ask me!

Kobe Bryant is not and will not be the only athlete with some controversy – Tiger Woods, Adrian Peterson, Bret Favre, Ray Lewis are a few that seem to come to mind. The interesting thing is though, they all have recovered quite nicely as their dominance in their respected sports has become the saving grace for their bad reputation.

The more and more this seems to happen, the more clear it is that an athletes legacy can come with scandal and controversy as long as they produce significantly. Remember when Tiger had a list 0f 17 women he was unfaithful with? Now the ‘buzz’ story is that he may have to retire early due to back pain. We are talking about the same guy, right?!

Heroes get remembered but legends never die. Where is Benny ‘The Jet’ Rodriguez when we need him?

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Posted in inspiration, life, pop culture

Diem Brown: More Than Cancer

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The funeral for Diem Brown was yesterday and from the information that was given out to the media, it sounded like it was a powerful and emotional ceremony. Because isn’t that what funerals are ultimately about? Celebrating life? I think when we aren’t in the thick of things or personally affected by the death of a loved one, we tend to view someone else’s passing as a time to gather with those closest to you and reflect on the life of the departed. Yes, it can be emotional but if it has not happened to us directly, it doesn’t hold the same weight. Although I did not know Diem Brown, her fight and passing has made a forever impression on me.

I have been a fan of the Challenge shows for years and I especially look forward to seeing her compete because not only was she fierce, but she was a true fighter in more ways than one. I remember the first season when viewers were first introduced to Diem Brown. A beautiful, blonde, athletic girl with legs for days, telling her challenge partner about her battle with ovarian cancer. She was in her twenties at the time and it seemed so unheard of that someone her age would develop such a horrific disease. Time passed and so did the challenge episodes, each with a larger glimpse into the ongoing battle that Diem was experiencing. Probably the most memorable moments in the show’s history was when her castmate and then boyfriend, CT, told her to take off her wig that hid the regrowth of her chemotherapy. Diem, hesitant to relieve herself of her security blanket at first, eventually conceded and stripped herself of the long glowing locks that surrounded her face. That moment, for me, took back the curtains and revealed her true personal struggle with the disease. Cancer not only stolen her health and some key moments in her life (like carrying children) but her identity as well. Though in that moment, she was ready to embrace a new one and it was amazing to see it unfold.

Unfortunately for Diem, cancer struck a third time late this summer. I mean honestly, this girl couldn’t catch a break. From the information that was being released, the cancer had taken over her body and it would be weeks or even days that Diem would have left to live. Although this was extremely heartbreaking, it was truly amazing to read her tweets and posts about never giving in and fighting no matter what. This young 32 year old woman was and will always be a true definition of a warrior. Not because she went down fighting but no matter what, she smiled, she remained strong, and made those around her believe in what she was fighting for. We can all hope for a legacy like Diem’s to leave behind. Grace, hope, and an overall love for life. Cancer is an absolutely horrific disease but I hope Diem’s resilience inspires others going through the same to keep fighting no matter what! Her life has inspired me to reevaluate what I stress about and if it really truly matters because life is short to not live it to the fullest.

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Why Pinterest is Ruining Weddings

I like Pinterest. I have many boards that keep me humble including “Foods That I’ll Never Make” and “Crafts I have No Time For,” because let’s be serious for a minute. Yes, that 5 layered dessert with about 50 ingredients looks amazing but in reality I have no patience to make something like that and will show up at a cookout with a box of cookies (store bought!). I have to say though that my witty pin boards are what you will encounter on my page as I haven’t taken the plunge and titled one “The Wedding I Might Have Ten Years From Now, Maybe.” Now, that doesn’t mean I haven’t explored the mason jar and chalkboard signs that are the hot wedding pins on Pinterest. I have also visited many of my friends Bridal Boards in the hopes I can do my bridesmaid duties correctly by incorporating their dream color scheme and candle favors into their bridal showers. Now that wedding season is in full swing, I’ve encountered quite a few ceremonies that are very “Pinteresty” to say the least. It’s amazing to sit there and do a double take because you have seen the exact same wedding program somewhere else. Same goes for fonts on invitations and high end candy tables with custom made scoops. It’s not only comparing one wedding to Pinterest, it’s like comparing 5 to the same popular pins that they all have added to their boards.

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I’m not saying that there is anything wrong with any of this. Pinterest has allowed brides to broaden their horizons and try to incorporate a bit of creativity when it comes to the very traditional wedding ceremony and reception. The negative aspect of this at least in the eyes of someone that utilizes Pinterest frequently is that there is a loss of originality and uniqueness in each one. It almost feels not as personal as it should be because the bride employed someone from Etsy to design most of her materials that the vendor also did for ten others. We are spending so much time trying to be trendy and special instead of incorporating our own flare and personality.

When my wedding board eventually comes to full fruition which it very well may on a private setting, I will most likely incorporate many pins that have been staples in other weddings. My hope for myself and all the other future brides is to remember that it is YOUR day and not to let a trendy online magazine dictate what will be memorable for you.

Posted in boston, opinion, pop culture, television

Trying To Be “Boston” Is WICKED Annoying!

The Departed was on for about the 90th time this month and I couldn’t help but get sucked into watching it. Of all the Boston based movies out there, I’d have to say that it’s one of my all time favorites. It may be the “Dedham Mall” reference (the town I grew up in) or the fact that most of the accents on our point, that keep me tuning back in.

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Speaking of the infamous Boston accent, let it be known that it is poorly demonstrated in a number of movies and television shows. Hearing Blake Lively slur “I want a LAWYA” in The Town literally sucked the life out of me. Why are the roles depicting Boston women revolve around drug addition, single motherhood, and little to no education? I believe Lively was even quoted as saying that she slept in her makeup and outfit the night before she had to shoot so she could look more authentic for the part. I’m sorry..WHAT? Granted every city and town have their own mix of citizen high and low but not every female in Boston looks and acts this way. We are among the top universities in the country and have a number of successful women leading the charge in all different areas. Even the 20 somethings are hungrier than ever and don’t need to be half dressed or knocked up to make their money. (May you RIP “Breaking Boston” cancelled after one episode)

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In the last few years, there has been a consistent uprising of television and film coming out of this city. Is Boston the newest trend or are we getting set up to be the latest embarrassment, Jersey Shore style? Watching the short lived reality series Southie Rules and Wicked Single made most of the locals skin crawl. At least we have some positive shows to fall back on like Wahlburgers and Boston’s Finest. (Both produced by the Boston based Wahlburgs. Hmmm, interesting!) There are also some great gems like Good Will Hunting, The Fighter, Mystic River, Gone Baby Gone, and Boondock Saints to name a few. Notice I left out The Perfect Storm? Diane Lane’s butchered accent is actually listed in the top 5 of worst Boston accents in film. I can’t watch that movie anymore..sigh!

To those who have yet to experience the real side of Boston, MA, I highly suggest that you don’t let you $10.50 at the Showcase Cinema be your education. We are more than accents, Bulger, and New Kids On The Block and we don’t need some high priced actress to drop some “wicked’s” to represent who we are.

Word to ya motha…

 

 

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It’s Handled Like Olivia Pope

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FINALLY, the longest winter hiatus for network shows has subsided and things started rolling again with Grey’s Anatomy and Scandal. It has been quite a while since I’ve seen Olivia Pope making out with the President! Side note: is it bad that I sort of feel bad for Mellie?

Anyway, Ms. Pope must have remained on my brain for the good 6 hours of sleep I had last night because I was tearing through my closet this morning trying to find an “Olivia Pope-esc” outfit. (I failed!)  If you are a fan of the show or have seen a trending photo online, you know for a FACT that Olivia can wear the heck out of any outfit. Seriously. Have you seen anyone pull off those amazing coats? I won’t even go into detail about how she makes office clothing so fashionable! Aside from her impeccable taste, her professional career ranks high on the list of the ultimate dream jobs. Although it may be as fictional as the stereotypical 30 something single female working at a magazine (pretty much every chick flick to date), it still makes you take notice of the power and presence she has when walking into a room of important people. 

Could I please be Olivia Pope one day and use words like “it’s handled,” eat popcorn, sip wine, and put the President in his place? As a female in the marketing industry, I thrive on the fact that she speaks so eloquently and she is in demand as a PR wizard. “I am very good at what I do. I am better at it than anybody else. That’s not arrogance. That’s fact.” You’re damn right, Olivia Pope..sigh!

Posted in humor, opinion, pop culture

Do You VagueBook?

We have all experienced NUMEROUS times on our Facebook news-feed a vague but attention seeking status from one of our “friends.” The call to action from these posters isn’t for help or assistance rather the need to see how many people will actually engage and show possible interest and sympathy for what they just posted. One of the best references regarding VagueBooking is here! 

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I would hope that if is someone truly was seeking the opinions of others in a stressful situation, that they would consult in private. Facebook has become a dumping ground for TMI and vague status updates are only adding to the cause. Aside from the weather, children, and overall life changing events, song lyrics and vulgar vocabulary have also become tools in VagueBooking behavior. The sad thing is is that Facebook actually gives you the option to unfollow accounts so their misery doesn’t appear on your news-feed but the temptation to continue to watch the daily drama unfold is too strong. VagueBookers actually serve as excellent conversations and screen shot topics among real friends (not online ones).

“Did you see Mary’s status about Karma being a bitch? Wonder who that is about”

If you have been a frequent VagueBooker, I’m sorry to tell you that you will forever remain as one for a long time. Every status you post will immediately create sarcastic thoughts and provoke massive amounts of eye rolling whether it is a serious situation or not. Either put it all out there, make it stop, or sign off. I don’t believe Jesus is providing psalms via Facebook messaging.